It’s Me, I’m The Problem

It’s me, hi, 👋 I’m the problem, it’s me.
(I agree Taylor!)

Often leaders talk to me about the recurring problems they’re having with their team members; low motivation, lack of accountability, inattention to results; to name just a few of their complaints.  It’s a little like my dating life. For years, I’ve been saying things like….
”I’m just not feeling it.” “He doesn’t seem interested.” “He’s not a match for me.”

Always pointing the finger at the guys I’ve dated.
But hang on a minute, there’s only one common denominator in my dating life – it’s ME.
It’s the same in your leadership role – it’s YOU.

Now, I’m not saying that your team members (or the guys I’ve dated) are without fault. They may well be the problem or at least contributing to it, but great leaders firstly look inward.

Very early in my leadership training, I was told this:
When things are going well, look out the WINDOW. Give recognition and reward.
When things aren’t going so well, look in the MIRROR. Self-reflect and consider your contribution to the problem.

Now, this is easy enough to understand but harder to practice.

There are many reasons for avoiding the mirror, however without examining yourself – your beliefs, your behaviours - how do you learn, grow, and adapt in your leadership role? How do you build a team culture of high trust and connection?

When you’re not getting the results you want from your team, take time to reflect and consider how your leadership style and actions may be influencing the team dynamics.

A final note…... please self-reflect from a place of kindness and curiosity (not harsh judgement). It’s an opportunity to learn more about yourself and how you can influence others to do their very best work.

I promise I’ll try and do the same in my dating life! 😉