Trust is one of the most important ingredients in any relationship. In leadership is means the difference between compliance and heartfelt commitment.
Last week, I was discussing with a client memorable moments in her career. She told me that a past leader had once said something to her that she’s never forgotten. It was this:
‘I’d take you to war with me’
Wow. Love that! As you might have guessed, he had a military background and this statement to my client meant something very special. It meant that he trusted her. He was saying:
I trust you. I believe in you. I can count on you. I know you have my back.
Trust is one of the most important ingredients in any relationship. As a leader, without trust, you merely get compliance from your people, never heartfelt commitment. They’ll say one thing to your face because you’re the boss but say something different behind your back, or at least be thinking it. They’ll cruise at work, stay under the radar and do what’s expected of them but they’ll never go above and beyond.
Let’s face it, at times the corporate environment can feel like a battle field; office politics and alliances, people scrambling for power, position plays, constant change and uncertainty and hyper competition. People can feel like they are in the trenches day in day out. What they need is a leader who they can trust; a leader who they can believe in.
In this busy corporate world, I don’t know about you, but I don’t have the time or the energy to second guess my own people. The people who are supposedly on my own team. I don’t want to have to micromanage them. I don’t want to have to check if what they’ve told me is true or not. What a waste! I want to trust my people and for them to trust me in return. Only then, can we can get on with doing the job, delivering to our clients, being creative and innovative and having some fun along the way!
So tell me, how are you building trust each day with your people and who would you take to war with you?